…or maybe not. I’m comparing myself and my mom, so it might just be our own idiosyncrasies.
We were talking on the phone the other day and I suddenly realized that 95% of our phone conversations are mostly her describing her day while I make noncommittal noises or murmurs of agreement. (ex. “I…
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This is really interesting! I think my gran must have an S high up in her functions somewhere, because she does exactly what you described. Her method of conversation or smalltalk is to simply list everything she has done, everything she has seen, every sentence of any other conversation she’s had that day, etc. It does drive me mad, because it seems so irrelevant and boring to me. I’m not very good at turning it into a conversation, because I feel like I have no idea how to respond - am I meant to agree? List everything I’ve done? Just listen silently? I normally do the latter because it seems the ‘safest’ option, and because I have to make an effort to hide my frustration at that type of conversation, because I’m clearly not very good at coping with conflicting functions, so I just get angrier and angrier.
Hey it’s not just me! Cool. I’m never sure how to respond to that sort of info dump either, and honestly tend to zone out after a while, but as long as it sounds like I’m listening she doesn’t seem to mind.
It’s interesting that so many people focus on the T/F conflict when the N/S conflict seems to be just as strong. Maybe even stronger, because they’re fundamentally different ways of seeing the world. It’s pretty easy to find logical Feelers and Thinkers that are in touch with their emotions, but I don’t think I’ve met anyone who understands/uses intuition and sensing equally. Is there such a thing as a sensing Intuitive or an intuitive Sensor? I’m not sure.
Maybe it’s a P/J thing as well? Because if you’re a P, then your other percieving function will be your weakest. But if you’re a J, your two perceiving functions are next to each other in the hierarchy, so they are closer together in strength? Something like that? But then I suppose they’re closer to equivalent strength, but neither of them are strong.
You’re talking about extraverts, I presume? It’s the opposite for introverts—Ps have their perceiving functions as auxiliary and tertiary, while Js have theirs as dominant and inferior.
I suppose theoretically one can develop one’s weaker perceiving function…but most people seem to focus on their weaker judging function.